"Changing your words changes your thoughts, ultimately changing your life!"

Childhood Trauma in Adults: Embracing Healing and a Brighter Future

Hey, fellow survivor, I am so glad you are here! If you are reading this, I would guess you're here to finish your recovery from childhood trauma in adults. In that case, you are precisely where you need to be. Welcome!

I know it may be painful for you to be here, but I'm so glad you are. Overcoming childhood trauma in adults is no walk in the park as you know.

At first, I felt so much emotional pain and deep shame that it was almost impossible to even look at myself. I have come a long way in my recovery, and so will you.

The Reality of Childhood

Childhood is normally viewed as a carefree and joyful time (which it should be). Still, for many of us, it leaves behind deep emotional scars that continue to affect you well into adulthood.

Childhood trauma in adult's manifests in different ways, impacting your mental and emotional well-being, relationships, ability to hold a job, and overall quality of life.

First Things First

Understanding childhood trauma and its effects on adults is the first step in identifying and addressing stress-related disorders, maintaining emotional well-being, and pursuing therapies if needed, to provide relief.

As an adult survivor of childhood trauma, I want to assure you that you're never alone. Mirroring my experiences and insights, let's delve into the issue of Childhood Trauma in Adults.

My Experience

I learned to deal with all of my trauma baggage, initially, like most of us, by stuffing it all down into a deep and equally dark hole inside me. That was one of my coping mechanisms. 

The problem with that approach is it kept coming back to haunt and torture me. I was surrounded by so many triggers which reignited my trauma again and again.

I've found childhood trauma in adults is directly related to low self-esteem.

The Roots of Childhood Trauma

The roots of childhood trauma in adults

The roots of childhood trauma cover incidences of abuse, neglect, or distressing events that occur during our developmentally crucial early years. These experiences can drastically influence your mental, emotional, and physical health. Looking into the types of childhood trauma, we see they can stretch from emotional, physical, or sexual abuse to distressing events such as neglect, domestic violence, war, or natural disasters.

In hindsight, the younger we were when the trauma happened to us, the deeper it buries itself, no wonder some of our issues are so hard to uproot.

The relationship between childhood trauma and adult mental health disorders is sizable. Trauma in childhood can trigger mental health disorders like anxiety, PTSD, and stress-related disorders.

These disorders lay their foundation in the aftermath of the disturbing experiences, and unlike normal stress reactions, they continue long after the event has ended.

However, finding ways to move on and make the choices you want for a better life is important. I've found childhood trauma in adults to be directly related to low self-esteem.

Be sure to check out the types of childhood trauma.

Considering the Impact of Trauma

Childhood trauma in adults the impacts and path to recovery

Considering the impact of trauma, it can invade various areas of your life. It will dictate your thoughts, emotions, behaviors, relationships, and general well-being.

Those of us with trauma histories usually struggle with self-esteem issues, intensified by feelings of low self-esteem and inadequacy, which further exaggerates the strain on your emotional well-being.

Valuing and accepting professional guidance cannot be overstated. Mental health professionals can provide the necessary therapeutic assistance and help guide you in the incorporating effective coping mechanisms.

As Children Our Right to Choose Was Taken Away

Much of what I did to change my life is based on how we can now make choices as adults. As a child, you didn't have a choice about what was inflicted on you. However, as an adult, you do. Even though you seem trapped in childhood trauma, you can and will move forward.

Reclaiming our childhood rights

Once I understood I formed the mental bars and chains that kept me imprisoned. I learned to accept all that crap happened to me in the past. I was initially afraid because I was tangled up in the trauma, pain, and shame. I learned to step over my chains of fear and note what my brain was doing. 

It kept running the same thoughts over and over in a loop. I realized the looping thought patterns were my jailer. Once I saw my jailer as unrealistic, I finally chose to break out of the prison of my own making. It wasn't easy, but I became determined and persistent. 

Understanding that the looping thoughts kept me imprisoned and the jail door was fear of change was huge.

Important Points

At first, the looping was an attempt to protect me, but later it locked me up and hid the key. 

It takes courage to overcome

I didn't say throw the key away but hidden from me. It was up to me to choose to find it. I did that by choosing to face my unrealistic fear of the past. Here are three important points I want to share with you.

  • The past is about anger, resentment, and regret. Living in the past is an anchor to something that only continues to plague you because of the memories and emotions of the event.
  • The future is about anxiety, worry, and fear. The future is not here and is not written in stone.
  • Sandwiched perfectly between the past and future is the present. Since the past is over and the future never arrives, everything can only exist in the present moment.

Understanding Childhood Trauma in Adults

Childhood trauma refers to experiences during our developmental years, such as physical or emotional abuse, neglect, sexual assault, or growing up in a turbulent environment. 

Those experiences leave lasting effects on you, influencing your thoughts, behaviors, and emotional well-being throughout adulthood. They range from disturbing to horrific.  Be sure to check out the types of childhood trauma.

Once You gain an Understanding

Once you gain an understanding of the profound effects of childhood trauma on adults, a crucial path forward is learning self-love and acceptance. Self-love is about recognizing your worth and validating your experience.

Acknowledgment is needed to begin the healing process. It's about seeing that you were, indeed, a victim and that the burden of what occurred shouldn't be your own. Doesn’t belong on your shoulders.

Understanding and empathizing with one's experience plays a significant role in healing. Empathy involves sharing and comprehending the feelings of another. It creates a compassionate environment that bolsters recovery from adulthood trauma triggered by childhood events.

Supportive Relationships

Childhood trauma in adults healing

Supportive relationships act as pillars of foundation while grappling with the long-lasting effects of trauma. Building strong, healthy relationships can be transformative, aiding your journey toward healing.

It's about learning to accept love and support from others and returning the same, fostering positive emotional health.

When Coping Mechanisms Aren’t Enough

These symptoms may include persistent anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and difficulties forming and maintaining healthy relationships.

Part of dealing with trauma involves confronting the effects it has on behavior. It is common for survivors of childhood trauma to develop unhealthy behaviors that help them cope with the experiences they've had. Recognizing and addressing these behaviors is an essential component of treatment.

There might be times when our coping mechanisms are just not enough, that's where professional guidance comes in. A blend of therapy and self-care practices contributes drastically to lessening the effects of trauma and stressor-related disorders.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is a popular therapy approach utilized to treat trauma and stress-related disorders. It's focused on identifying and countering negative thought patterns, encouraging healthier coping strategies, and enhancing mental well-being.

Another effective treatment method comes in the form of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Used mainly for the treatment of trauma, it uses eye movements to help process traumatic memories and ease disturbing symptoms.

Traumatic memories connected with distressing experiences can resurface from time to time, affecting our well-being and functioning. They respond well to EMDR.

Various Different Therapies

Various different modes of therapy are available to suit individual needs. Apart from CBT and EMDR, others include psychodynamic therapy, mindfulness-based therapies, and play therapy among others. It's not a one-size-fits-all and the choice ultimately relies on personal preferences and needs.

We don’t want to overlook the role of coping mechanisms in managing stress and lessening your daily struggles. Everyone uses coping strategies to deal with life's challenges; so, fostering healthy ones is vital in healing from trauma and stressor-related disorders.

Supportive Groups and Communities

Supportive connections can be empowering. Whether it's a support group or a close-knit community, knowing that others understand your experience makes a big difference. These supportive connections can lead to an overall sense of understanding and acceptance, nurturing resilience, and personal empowerment.

Skills You Want to Develop

Resilience is a critical element when dealing with the repercussions of childhood trauma in adults. Learning to be resilient helps combat the stresses of life, manage pain more effectively, recover from difficulties quicker, and even build a stronger emotional and physical well-being.

Self-compassion is equally essential in this journey. It involves being kind to yourself when you are in pain or feeling as if you’ve failed at something, understanding that experiencing adversity is a part of life, and maintaining a mindset of mindfulness, one of balance.

Adding resilience and self-compassion to your skill set will help you understand the past doesn't define you. You are not the product of your traumas but a survivor. Each stride you take toward healing and recovery is a validation of your strength.

Recovery must always remain the central focus. While the path to recovery may seem like it’s rolling or surging like a stormy sea, every effort towards reclaiming control of mental well-being and achieving emotional health is a victory.

Understanding Trauma Leads to Healing

Understanding trauma can feel like a lengthy and complex process, but it is one marked by healing and growth. As you recognize the impact of trauma and integrate practical coping strategies, you're creating the foundation for long-lasting recovery.

Anxiety disorders often develop in response to trauma, further compounding distress. If you find yourself struggling with symptoms of an anxiety disorder – such as excessive worry, restlessness, or panic attacks – consider seeking professional help.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can also be a result of childhood trauma, the symptoms of which can appear years later in adulthood. Symptoms can include intrusive memories, avoidance of certain places or situations, and severe mood swings among others.

In the face of adversity, trauma, and stress, one of the most empowering things we can do is take control. Personal empowerment is about recognizing that you have the ability to make decisions about your life, and the strength to make those decisions even in difficult circumstances.

As you learn to navigate the effects of childhood trauma, you will find that your mental well-being improves. This is a crucial element in any recovery journey, as it's important to maintain a positive and balanced mental state.

You can feel like you are a yo-yo on string at first, but as you keep moving forward you will find you are affected less and less.

 Be sure and go to childhood stressors and disorders.

Understanding how childhood trauma in adults influences numerous parts our of lives, mental health disorders, and the need for professional help, we learn that healing and recovery is a journey.

This journey may be hard, requiring patience and compassion, yet each step forward is a landmark victory. Remember, you are resilient, and well above the shadows of your past. Take power back into your hands, because ultimately, you are your best advocate. You are stronger than you think.

You are extraordinary!

As you move forward toward your unique healing I want you to remember to look past your past.

Make this part of your new way to cope.

As a person, as human on this planet that travels the Universe...you ARE Extraordinary.

Make it one of your cherished mantras, "I AM Extraordinary!" Tap into the energy of the Beauty of Being.

Establish Healthy Boundaries

By creating and maintaining healthy boundaries, you take a vital step toward overcoming childhood trauma. Communicating personal needs, limits, and expectations to those you encounter furthers a sense of safety and respect. 

Learning and practicing saying "no" and prioritizing self-care creates a foundation for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

Cultivate Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a complex yet transformative process in healing from childhood trauma in adults. It involves releasing the burden of anger and resentment towards those who have caused you pain, not to condone or forget their actions, but as a path to personal liberation. 

By forgiving, you free yourself from the emotional weight of the past and open doors to greater peace and acceptance.

Engage in Meaningful Activities

Engaging in activities that provide you with a sense of purpose and meaning facilitates healing and personal growth. 

Always choose self love and acceptance!

Volunteering, pursuing creative endeavors, or dedicating time to causes aligned with personal values allows you to experience personal growth, boost self-esteem, and develop renewed hope for the future.

There is something almost magical about putting your struggles aside and devoting yourself to helping another person or persons. It is like a key that releases you.

Summing it All Up for You

Childhood trauma in adults can have long-lasting effects, but it doesn't have to define your future. By recognizing the symptoms, seeking professional help when needed you can embark on a journey of healing, resilience, and personal growth.

Understanding how childhood trauma in adults influences numerous parts our of lives, mental health disorders, and the need for professional help, we learn that healing and recovery is a journey.

This journey may be hard, requiring patience and compassion, yet each step forward is a landmark victory. Remember, you are resilient, and well above the shadows of your past. Take power back into your hands, because ultimately, you are your best advocate. You are stronger than you think.

Don't forget to check out types of childhood traumas.

Resources to Continue Your Growth & Healing

1. The Healing Power of Storytelling

The Healing Power of Storytelling

2. The Narrative Therapy Workbook

The Narrative Therapy Workbook

"Think like Spring; always embrace renewal and growth."